I went out for dinner with some girlfriends last week. While we were eating, I got a call from Zeke. He wanted to know when his appointment was to get his hair cut. I couldn’t remember. I made the appointment that morning. I had to call the hair stylist to confirm the time during dinner. I called Zeke back to let him know.
After that conversation with Zeke, I must have had a bad look on my face. My friends looked a little worried. I told them that there was a tiny chance I was experiencing some disease related memory loss. Jumping to conclusions always seems like the best course of action. I’m good at it.
I do worry. Lately, I’ve become weary of my brain’s shortcomings. It’s hard being me. I just don’t know any other adult women who lose mittens daily, forget the names of common objects with such annoying regularity, and more often than not have the wrong time and date. For everything. I’m really not trying to be cute when this stuff happens. I just haven’t figured out how to correct myself.
I must have looked genuinely nervous (I was) after my call with Zeke, because my friends jumped in to comfort me. I told them that I was just forgetting so many things lately. I was kind of losing trust in myself.
My friends all said, of course, they forget things all the time too. I have so much on my mind, I couldn’t possibly be expected to remember every hair cut appointment. They’re the best lying friends a girl could have.
I was worrying about this fading memory of mine some more on my way to work the next morning. By the time I got to work I was thinking this: my brain might be losing power, but it is still serviceable. You know why I thought that? Because I made a list. I wrote down everything my brain had permitted me to do by the time I sat down at my desk at 8:10 that morning. Here it is:
1. Made a Doctor appointment for Zeke
2. Arranged for a friend to take Zeke to that Doctor’s appt
3. Arranged a ride for Olivia to her basketball tournament the next day
4. Arranged for someone to feed and walk Reggie when we were all gone on Saturday
5. Called my parents to make sure they know that if they’d like to watch the kids participate in athletics, and the weather turns bad, they’re welcome to stay in our newly refinished basement
6. Sent a group text to some friends with a message I thought was funny
7. Put some nonsense on Facebook
That’s not terrible. And, I didn’t include getting ready, making my bed, packing a lunch and walking Reggie. I think I could do that stuff without brain power, right? So, I thought maybe that stuff didn’t deserve to make the list. Believe me. I wanted to put it on there. That’s why I told you about it any way.
I had to make this list. I had to reassure myself that my brain still works, because I really need my brain. My clients and family need it too.
The list made me feel a little better. But, not much.
The other thing that’s on my mind is awesome people. I love awesome people. Awesome people should be celebrated. Here’s today’s awesome people list:
Ellie and Austin
Ellie and Austin are sweet and funny kids. Their family is involved in the wrestling program, and that’s lucky for us. I’ve posted Facebook messages about Ellie’s little brother, Austin. Austin is one of Scott’s good friends. Austin told Scott to PLEASE keep coaching until Austin was done with high school. Austin’s convincing argument was, “You can’t just wet me westle for a stwanger.” Which, of course, is true.
Scott gave Austin the business this summer, because Austin was going to miss a summer school wrestling class for some kind of event at the fair. This event included cake, which Austin said was the best part. Scott made sure to let Austin know that the least Austin could do was bring Scott back a piece of cake. Austin didn’t. Instead, he brought Scott an entire cake. Austin delivered this cake to our front door. He made it himself. From scratch.
Ellie is Austin’s sister, and she is my friend. Sometimes I sit by Ellie at wrestling meets, and she makes me laugh. Not like, “Oh. I’m laughing to be nice, because you’re a kid and you’re supposed to be nice to kids,” type of laughing.
Ellie is smart and sharp as a cute little tack. I love hanging out with her.
One wrestling match last year, Ellie came with her crochet needles. She was learning to crochet. She had a little stretch of something that she had started. It was about as long as a ruler, but she thought it might eventually be a scarf. I told her she should make me a scarf some time, and then I laughed. I never thought about it again
The wrestling season has started again. Ellie was at the first match. She walked up to me, and gave me a beautiful blue and green infinity scarf. She told me she thinks it took her two months to make it, or maybe one, she thought.
So, I guess the point of this story is never tell these sweet kids that you want something. They’ll feel obligated to provide it for you. And, if you want to know how to make sweet kids, you should probably ask Ellie and Austin’s parents. They have two other sweet boys too. These parents know what they’re doing.
Some more awesomeness I have been considering is the Wood family. The Woods have four kids too. Maybe that’s all it takes to be awesome. Ben Wood is the son of one of the finest couples I’ve had the pleasure of knowing. We don’t see this couple much anymore, but they’ve been mentors to Scott and me in our lives. This couple focuses on all the right things, and they’ve shown Scott and me that long marriages can be fun and full of adventures.
The Woods have two great kids. Ben is their son. He is a Pastor in Wisconsin. Ben and his wife, Jen, and their four kids will be headed for Thailand soon. They have decided that they are going to join a ministry dedicated to preventing child trafficking.
Ben, Jen and their children are God’s answer to my prayers. When I’m out walking, I pray for children and pets who have no protection from evil. I’m haunted by these thoughts; I try to turn those haunted thoughts in to prayers. I think God hears me.
Our family is going to financially support the Woods. I can’t think of a better use of our resources:
The last person of distinguished awesomeness, is Scott’s Dad, Marcus Smith. Scott inherited all sorts of admirable qualities from his Dad. One of my favorites is gentleness. Marc is incapable of being overbearing and in your business. He just quietly loves you to pieces. Marc and Scott’s Mom, Gail, came to Scott and the boys’ first wrestling meet.
Scott and Marc gave each other the best spontaneous hug before we said goodbye. I was mad I missed it, so I asked for a redo. Marc loved that. He made a little joke, and pretended like he and Scott had to keep posing for the picture, because he really just didn’t want to stop hugging his son. It’s hard for me to believe that my husband, and the father of my children, was this guy’s baby. But, he was. Parental love is so fierce. It never stops. Adult children should try to remember that.
That’s it. This was my Awesomeness Hall-of-Fame. I liked doing that, and you deserve to be on the list of awesomeness list for reading it.